Up thinking about the excuses we make for “the way we are.” You know– “I’m like this because so and so made me like this,” “I’m like this because of the way I was raised,” and so forth. Those are just excuses for not changing. I know, because I’ve been there.
Whenever I didn’t want to change a behavior, I would blame it on someone else or some past hurt or disappointment. “I hate cleaning up on Saturday mornings because my momma made me do it” or “I’ll never fall in love again because so and so hurt me.” Just threw that one in cause I couldn’t think of anything else– shoot, I’m sleepy– lol. Anyway, there are so many more that I’ve used.
When I finally realized they were just excuses, my life began to change. I wasn’t emotionally scarred. I just didn’t want to change. I actually liked being miserable. There’s something about emotional hurt that’s comforting. Sounds crazy, but it’s true. It allows you to put the blame on someone, or something, other than yourself. Whether we want to admit it or not, we’re in control of our feelings. We choose the way we respond. Even if it’s only for a split second, we think “Should I be mad or not? Um.. yeah, I should be mad! I’m gonna be mad, act mad, and look mad!” Didn’t you feel good just thinking about it? Lol! Crazy, huh!
Now, I’m not saying that I’ve mastered this, because I haven’t. I still allow people, things and situations upset me. However, it never lasts long. I like being happy. Believe me, life is so much more pleasant when you’re happy. Oh— I can’t act like I did it all by myself. Nope. It was God! All God! I’m so happy He loves me! He introduced me to the power of positivity. Yep. He loves me!
Okay, I’m going to sleep. This was very random. Hopefully some of it made sense. If not, oh well. Life is short and I felt like writing. That’s why it’s called “It’s Shaun’s World.”