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Funny Memory

When I tell you my kids, especially my son, know me so well. A few days ago, my daughter was watching the Luther Vandross documentary (if you haven’t seen it yet, you need too, it’s so good!) and was texting me every few minutes because she was so in awe of his talent. I just laughed because I thought she knew. I thought everyone knew how talented and gifted he was. Lol. Anyhoo… seeing this memory makes me smile. Luther Vandross was the man! And whenever I get in a funk, I usually listen to a Luther of JG (Johnny Gill) song.🥰

Yeah… funny memory.

Right now “Never Too Much” is playing in my head; however, it’s not my favorite Luther song.

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Five Years with Mississippi Thriving

Whew! When I tell you God knows how to keep the tears of gratitude flowing. I hadn’t expected to see this memory today.

Just thought I’d include the picture too.☺️

Five years ago, I created the social media platform Mississippi Thriving to help individuals, agencies, and organizations share helpful and healthful information with Mississippians. I also wanted it to serve as a resource hub for our communities and a place where people outside Mississippi could visit to see the positive things happening in our state. Statistically and politically, Mississippi looks pretty bad; however, in reality, we’re moving and making progress—slow progress, but progress. Maybe it’s not noteworthy to the world, but it means everything to us.


Y’all, God is so good. Only He knew how much I needed to see this memory today. I just love how He loves me.🥰

Forever grateful and blessed.♥️

Shaun

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Hello Sunday

Good Morning!☀️

Lately, I have been a little more emotional than usual. It took me a minute to figure out why, and I finally have. A rebirth is happening. At least, that’s what it feels like.

Some may think what I’m about to say is weird, and it’s perfectly fine, but the timing of “The Six Triple Eight” movie and my daughter’s upcoming 30th birthday are so intertwined. The 30 years hit me while I was visiting her a week ago. Then, seeing the movie this weekend brought back memories of my experiences in the military around the time of her birth (almost 30 years ago) and the first few years of her life. Y’all, I’ve been crying nonstop this weekend. It feels like I am finally releasing everything I have held in for decades—the stress, uncertainties, and pressure I placed on myself to be a great mother to a child who did not ask to be here. I chose to bring her into this world, which meant I was responsible for making sure she always felt loved, protected, supported, and never like a burden. Those were the things I needed as a child, and I was determined to make sure she had them. And then the song “The Journey” by H.E.R. gets me every time I hear it. Y’all, these past 30 years have definitely been a journey.

Here’s what AI had to say about 30 years—

“It can be a turning point in a person’s life or a time when a historical event’s long-term effects can be seen. … It can be a time when someone realizes who they are, gains self-awareness.”

Whewwww… y’all, this is a lot.

I now realize that 30 years ago, I shut down part of my life to become the best mom I could be, and I know exactly when it happened. That’s a story for another time. Last week, I finally saw the woman my baby girl has become and know that my mission has been achieved. Now it’s time for me to live.


My life definitely changed 30 years ago, and I have absolutely no regrets—I never have. I just adjusted. Seeing my baby girl’s smile today lets me know all my sacrifices were worth it.

Here are two pictures… A lot can change in a year.

Squadron Christmas party in Germany (December 1993).
Squadron Christmas party in Florida (December 1994). Almost 9 months pregnant.

What a journey…

Thanks for allowing me space to exhale and release. I pray you have a glorious Sunday!♥️

Love you,

Shaun

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Almost 30 Years, Part 2

Last week around this time, I was headed to visit my daughter. It feels so wild to have a child that’s almost 30. As I wrote in Almost 30 Years, she’s been through it all with me. Words can’t even begin to describe how grateful I am that God gave her to me.

I decided to take a real trip down memory lane this morning, a 30 year trip. I didn’t write anything on this day 30 years ago (December 19, 1994), but I wrote something two days before. Here’s what I wrote. Hope you can read it.

December 17, 1994— My baby journal

I had no idea if I was having a girl or boy so I always referred to them as “Honey” and “Sweetie.”

I was excited and nervous at the same time. Had no idea of what to expect but knew I wanted to be the best mom ever. The kids and twins I was referring to were my siblings.

Me and my sweet baby girl today.🥰

From where I was then, to where I am 30 years later, I am so very blessed.♥️

Shaun

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Making Memories

Shaun’s Journal Entry: December 18, 2021

“There is no such thing as perfect timing. Make memories now.”

I shared this image when I posted the quote on TikTok (December 18, 2021).

I selected the song “Good Memories” by Cochren & Co. to accompany the image above. It’s a lovely song that brings back so many sweet memories. I hope it brightens your day as it has mine.♥️ ~Shaun

Here’s the song’s video.

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The Beginning of a Journey

I was born in the Mississippi Delta. I was born to a teenage mother. I was born an African American female. Some would say I was born a statistic. …

The Beginning of a Journey

This morning, I was reading my journal and saw that I had written my “very first” blog post (that’s what I had written) seven years ago. All I could do was smile because I had forgotten about my other blog site that I have neglected over the years. Ugh… It was the one I created with my first business venture, The Research Diva–RD. I revisited the site to see what I had written seven years ago (December 6, 2017). Smiling even harder now and crying a little because that post wasn’t my first. My first post was actually written two days earlier, on December 4, 2017. I can’t believe I didn’t write about it. Anyhoo… With my permission—I don’t want to plagiarize myself even though I’m not going to cite it properly—I am copying and pasting my entire post. It’s also reblogged above. And y’all, the title has me choked up. I can’t help but add “…with God.” It defines the beginning of my journey with God. Whew!!! When I tell you, I have chills. Who knew?! Listen, when I tell you, the last few days have been like a whirlwind. Yesterday, I was reconnected with someone I wanted to work on a project with 10 years ago. Y’all, ten years ago!! Yeah…this morning I’m pretty emotional. This journey of mine has definitely been quite interesting.

Okay… without further ado, here’s my very first blog!

The Beginning of a Journey, December 4, 2017 written by I Am LaShaundreaB

I was born in the Mississippi Delta. I was born to a teenage mother. I was born an African American female. Some would say I was born a statistic.

When I was a little girl, I didn’t know we were poor. My concept of poor, or impoverished, came from the children Sally Struthers represented during her Saturday afternoon broadcast for the Christian Children Fund. Unlike the children on television, we had food to eat, water to drink, clothes, shelter and a working mother. We were not poor…so I thought.

As I got older, I realized we didn’t have as much as some, but sometimes we had a little more than others. I can remember getting hand-me-downs from other families and eventually passing those hand-me-downs to other families in need. Believe me, we were very grateful for our new clothes. We were also grateful for mayonnaise sandwiches.

My mother always worked- from chopping cotton to being an administrative assistant. She always had a job or two. However, she never made enough to get us out of poverty. Some how she managed to make too much to receive government assistance. Funny how that works. I believe that’s when I became familiar with the phrase “the working poor.”

In high school I discovered the Peace Corp. One of my French teachers had just come from Sri Lanka. Her stories about helping people in need was so exciting. I had already taken three years of Spanish and was on my second year of French. My plans were to be an interpreter at the United Nations or for a big corporation. I had big dreams. Well, after hearing her stories, I thought back to Sally Struthers’ show and so many like them, and decided I wanted to use my linguistics skills  where they would count– underserved/undeveloped populations.

Unfortunately, I never joined the Peace Corp. God had other plans. I joined the Air Force– Aim High! In hindsight, it was one of the most rewarding experiences of my life. I had the opportunity to travel to different countries and interact with other cultures. One significant thing I learned was, we were all alike. The younger people reminded me of myself and my friends; the middle aged ones reminded me of my parents’ generation; and the elders reminded me of my great grandparents. It was a wonderful experience.

In 1999, I decided to return to Mississippi. My mom had moved back to the Mississippi Delta, from Kansas, a few years before. My plan was to enroll in a Hospitality Management program and eventually open a bed and breakfast. Again, God had other plans. Instead of majoring in Hospitality Management, I majored in Culinary Artistry. Which led me to the Dietetics profession.

Dietetics. I love my profession! Dietitians ROCK!! Just had to add that little plug before I continued. 

Here’s where the research part comes in. During my last semester of undergraduate school, I was introduced to a research project that was taking place in the Mississippi Delta. The location was approximately 30 minutes from my home town. I wanted to know more about the program so I volunteered to help with data collection. It was during this time that I actually paid attention to the statistics. I knew the Mississippi Delta was considered the poorest region of the state, but I hadn’t seen numbers. Numbers make a difference.

I saw the poverty and I didn’t see it. It’s hard to describe. My thoughts were, the people in the Delta just had a few setbacks. They looked happy. They were eating. Some were working. Most actually had new clothes. However, many had chronic diseases, were depressed, in debt, jobless and hopeless. The more I worked within the community, the more I became aware of. I started asking questions about their health and employment opportunities. I started paying attention. I was saddened by what I saw (it was like blinders had fallen off). I believed that if the situation in the Delta didn’t change, it would eventually become a ghost town. Then I thought about my great-great grandparents and all they fought for— owning land, voting rights, to be seen as an upstanding citizens, etc., and I knew I had to do something.

After completing graduate school and my dietetics internship, I had the opportunity to work on another research project in the Mississippi Delta. I was grateful for that opportunity because I saw it as a way  of honoring my ancestors and fulfilling their dreams.

Two years ago, I had the opportunity to meet Kennedy and Jessica Odede, authors of Find Me Unafraid. After reading their book about finding hope in the midst of hopeless circumstances in Kenya, I had to meet them. If you’re familiar with the bible, I felt like the woman with the issue of blood that had to touch the helm of Jesus’ garment. I just knew if I could touch someone who was able to bring hope to a community that resembled so many communities in the Delta, so could I. It was also at that moment that I decided my work needed to be global. I believe children in the Delta would benefit from interacting with other children around the world. I believe it will give them another outlook on life. The theme of my new venture is Connecting Communities Through Research. There are numerous research projects funded every year that are similar.


Wow!! Again, I can’t believe I had forgotten I had shared this. Y’all, God is sooooo amazing! I needed to see this. I needed to be reminded of my Why.

Thank you for reading. I know it was long but I thought it was best to share it in its entirety instead of only sharing the link. I pray that you have a lovely day.

My late brother’s only child, my niece, is graduating from college today. I can’t wait to celebrate with her!🥰

Enjoy your day!♥️

Love you,

Shaun