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Hello Sunday

Good Morning!☀️

Lately, I have been a little more emotional than usual. It took me a minute to figure out why, and I finally have. A rebirth is happening. At least, that’s what it feels like.

Some may think what I’m about to say is weird, and it’s perfectly fine, but the timing of “The Six Triple Eight” movie and my daughter’s upcoming 30th birthday are so intertwined. The 30 years hit me while I was visiting her a week ago. Then, seeing the movie this weekend brought back memories of my experiences in the military around the time of her birth (almost 30 years ago) and the first few years of her life. Y’all, I’ve been crying nonstop this weekend. It feels like I am finally releasing everything I have held in for decades—the stress, uncertainties, and pressure I placed on myself to be a great mother to a child who did not ask to be here. I chose to bring her into this world, which meant I was responsible for making sure she always felt loved, protected, supported, and never like a burden. Those were the things I needed as a child, and I was determined to make sure she had them. And then the song “The Journey” by H.E.R. gets me every time I hear it. Y’all, these past 30 years have definitely been a journey.

Here’s what AI had to say about 30 years—

“It can be a turning point in a person’s life or a time when a historical event’s long-term effects can be seen. … It can be a time when someone realizes who they are, gains self-awareness.”

Whewwww… y’all, this is a lot.

I now realize that 30 years ago, I shut down part of my life to become the best mom I could be, and I know exactly when it happened. That’s a story for another time. Last week, I finally saw the woman my baby girl has become and know that my mission has been achieved. Now it’s time for me to live.


My life definitely changed 30 years ago, and I have absolutely no regrets—I never have. I just adjusted. Seeing my baby girl’s smile today lets me know all my sacrifices were worth it.

Here are two pictures… A lot can change in a year.

Squadron Christmas party in Germany (December 1993).
Squadron Christmas party in Florida (December 1994). Almost 9 months pregnant.

What a journey…

Thanks for allowing me space to exhale and release. I pray you have a glorious Sunday!♥️

Love you,

Shaun

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The Six Triple Eight, Part 2

Good Morning!☀️

I have been watching interviews and reading reviews about The Six Triple Eight over the past few days, and all are true. The movie accurately portrays the strength of the Black woman and our ability to take on challenges and excel. We’ve always had to prove ourselves worthy of our positions and place in this world (even today). I know the mental anguish all too well. Believe me, I have my own military stories, as well as civilian ones. As Johnnie Mae kept saying, being in the military was no different from being back home. She and Charity Adams were my sheros in the movie.

So, when I wrote my initial thoughts about the movie, I chose to focus on Lena’s character and her journey. Not her journey as a soldier but her journey as a woman trying to navigate through pain and still perform as if everything was okay. Still trying not to give too much of the movie away. Yes, I know that pain as well. Mine may not have been caused by the same thing, but the pain was there. As I said, I have my own military stories.

As I wrote in my last post, the movie was awesome! It’s definitely a must see!

Praying you have a wonderful weekend!♥️

Love you,

Shaun

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Almost 30 Years, Part 2

Last week around this time, I was headed to visit my daughter. It feels so wild to have a child that’s almost 30. As I wrote in Almost 30 Years, she’s been through it all with me. Words can’t even begin to describe how grateful I am that God gave her to me.

I decided to take a real trip down memory lane this morning, a 30 year trip. I didn’t write anything on this day 30 years ago (December 19, 1994), but I wrote something two days before. Here’s what I wrote. Hope you can read it.

December 17, 1994— My baby journal

I had no idea if I was having a girl or boy so I always referred to them as “Honey” and “Sweetie.”

I was excited and nervous at the same time. Had no idea of what to expect but knew I wanted to be the best mom ever. The kids and twins I was referring to were my siblings.

Me and my sweet baby girl today.🥰

From where I was then, to where I am 30 years later, I am so very blessed.♥️

Shaun

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Making Memories

Shaun’s Journal Entry: December 18, 2021

“There is no such thing as perfect timing. Make memories now.”

I shared this image when I posted the quote on TikTok (December 18, 2021).

I selected the song “Good Memories” by Cochren & Co. to accompany the image above. It’s a lovely song that brings back so many sweet memories. I hope it brightens your day as it has mine.♥️ ~Shaun

Here’s the song’s video.

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My Journey With God, No. 38

Finally reviewing my Facebook memories. They say hindsight is 20/20. Whew! If I only knew what was coming in 2019, I’m not sure if I would have made the post below. Although good things happened that year (I finally got my divorce after four years of waiting), it was the most traumatic year of my life. I’m not going to lie, seeing post like this and knowing what happened, throws a damper on my optimism. I know I will get past this moment. I know that God is good. I know that life happens and flows according to His plans. However, it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t hurt at times. Right now I feel the pain.

This is the “social media find” I was referring to in my post.

After rereading the post, I have decided to celebrate her (my) moment. In that moment, I wasn’t delusional or naive, I was happy and optimistic. I was so looking forward to all of the good things I expected the new year to bring.

I cannot allow knowing what actually happened that year to stop me from expecting great things to happen in the future. I need to keep that same level of optimism. I love how genuine my excitement was. It was pure. It was me. Oh how I wish I could get that Shaun back.

Anyhoo… just needed to share.♥️ ~Shaun

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The Beginning of a Journey

I was born in the Mississippi Delta. I was born to a teenage mother. I was born an African American female. Some would say I was born a statistic. …

The Beginning of a Journey

This morning, I was reading my journal and saw that I had written my “very first” blog post (that’s what I had written) seven years ago. All I could do was smile because I had forgotten about my other blog site that I have neglected over the years. Ugh… It was the one I created with my first business venture, The Research Diva–RD. I revisited the site to see what I had written seven years ago (December 6, 2017). Smiling even harder now and crying a little because that post wasn’t my first. My first post was actually written two days earlier, on December 4, 2017. I can’t believe I didn’t write about it. Anyhoo… With my permission—I don’t want to plagiarize myself even though I’m not going to cite it properly—I am copying and pasting my entire post. It’s also reblogged above. And y’all, the title has me choked up. I can’t help but add “…with God.” It defines the beginning of my journey with God. Whew!!! When I tell you, I have chills. Who knew?! Listen, when I tell you, the last few days have been like a whirlwind. Yesterday, I was reconnected with someone I wanted to work on a project with 10 years ago. Y’all, ten years ago!! Yeah…this morning I’m pretty emotional. This journey of mine has definitely been quite interesting.

Okay… without further ado, here’s my very first blog!

The Beginning of a Journey, December 4, 2017 written by I Am LaShaundreaB

I was born in the Mississippi Delta. I was born to a teenage mother. I was born an African American female. Some would say I was born a statistic.

When I was a little girl, I didn’t know we were poor. My concept of poor, or impoverished, came from the children Sally Struthers represented during her Saturday afternoon broadcast for the Christian Children Fund. Unlike the children on television, we had food to eat, water to drink, clothes, shelter and a working mother. We were not poor…so I thought.

As I got older, I realized we didn’t have as much as some, but sometimes we had a little more than others. I can remember getting hand-me-downs from other families and eventually passing those hand-me-downs to other families in need. Believe me, we were very grateful for our new clothes. We were also grateful for mayonnaise sandwiches.

My mother always worked- from chopping cotton to being an administrative assistant. She always had a job or two. However, she never made enough to get us out of poverty. Some how she managed to make too much to receive government assistance. Funny how that works. I believe that’s when I became familiar with the phrase “the working poor.”

In high school I discovered the Peace Corp. One of my French teachers had just come from Sri Lanka. Her stories about helping people in need was so exciting. I had already taken three years of Spanish and was on my second year of French. My plans were to be an interpreter at the United Nations or for a big corporation. I had big dreams. Well, after hearing her stories, I thought back to Sally Struthers’ show and so many like them, and decided I wanted to use my linguistics skills  where they would count– underserved/undeveloped populations.

Unfortunately, I never joined the Peace Corp. God had other plans. I joined the Air Force– Aim High! In hindsight, it was one of the most rewarding experiences of my life. I had the opportunity to travel to different countries and interact with other cultures. One significant thing I learned was, we were all alike. The younger people reminded me of myself and my friends; the middle aged ones reminded me of my parents’ generation; and the elders reminded me of my great grandparents. It was a wonderful experience.

In 1999, I decided to return to Mississippi. My mom had moved back to the Mississippi Delta, from Kansas, a few years before. My plan was to enroll in a Hospitality Management program and eventually open a bed and breakfast. Again, God had other plans. Instead of majoring in Hospitality Management, I majored in Culinary Artistry. Which led me to the Dietetics profession.

Dietetics. I love my profession! Dietitians ROCK!! Just had to add that little plug before I continued. 

Here’s where the research part comes in. During my last semester of undergraduate school, I was introduced to a research project that was taking place in the Mississippi Delta. The location was approximately 30 minutes from my home town. I wanted to know more about the program so I volunteered to help with data collection. It was during this time that I actually paid attention to the statistics. I knew the Mississippi Delta was considered the poorest region of the state, but I hadn’t seen numbers. Numbers make a difference.

I saw the poverty and I didn’t see it. It’s hard to describe. My thoughts were, the people in the Delta just had a few setbacks. They looked happy. They were eating. Some were working. Most actually had new clothes. However, many had chronic diseases, were depressed, in debt, jobless and hopeless. The more I worked within the community, the more I became aware of. I started asking questions about their health and employment opportunities. I started paying attention. I was saddened by what I saw (it was like blinders had fallen off). I believed that if the situation in the Delta didn’t change, it would eventually become a ghost town. Then I thought about my great-great grandparents and all they fought for— owning land, voting rights, to be seen as an upstanding citizens, etc., and I knew I had to do something.

After completing graduate school and my dietetics internship, I had the opportunity to work on another research project in the Mississippi Delta. I was grateful for that opportunity because I saw it as a way  of honoring my ancestors and fulfilling their dreams.

Two years ago, I had the opportunity to meet Kennedy and Jessica Odede, authors of Find Me Unafraid. After reading their book about finding hope in the midst of hopeless circumstances in Kenya, I had to meet them. If you’re familiar with the bible, I felt like the woman with the issue of blood that had to touch the helm of Jesus’ garment. I just knew if I could touch someone who was able to bring hope to a community that resembled so many communities in the Delta, so could I. It was also at that moment that I decided my work needed to be global. I believe children in the Delta would benefit from interacting with other children around the world. I believe it will give them another outlook on life. The theme of my new venture is Connecting Communities Through Research. There are numerous research projects funded every year that are similar.


Wow!! Again, I can’t believe I had forgotten I had shared this. Y’all, God is sooooo amazing! I needed to see this. I needed to be reminded of my Why.

Thank you for reading. I know it was long but I thought it was best to share it in its entirety instead of only sharing the link. I pray that you have a lovely day.

My late brother’s only child, my niece, is graduating from college today. I can’t wait to celebrate with her!🥰

Enjoy your day!♥️

Love you,

Shaun

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We Are The World

Today, the world lost a genius—a musical mastermind—Mr. Quincy Jones. I honestly can’t recall a time in my childhood and young adulthood when his influence wasn’t felt. However, there is one specific moment in time—aside from when I was a Michael Jackson stan☺️—when I truly became a fan. It was when he brought together some of my favorite artists from the 1980s to produce the song “We Are The World.” I remember being in awe of so many icons from different music genres coming together to sing a song that could possibly change the world. Yes, I expected a lot. Smile. For me, it meant my wish of the world finally singing in perfect harmony was closer. I was hopeful.

Then, there was “The Secret Garden.” Whew!!! If you know, you know! What a song!

Lastly, and probably his work that had the most impact on my life, was the album, “Q’s Jook Joint”. It was released during one of the most challenging years of my life. I was a single mom with an almost one year old and had no clue how I’d make it as a mom or if I would ever be loved. This album (CD) gave me hope. I remember having it on repeat for months. Wow, the memories!

Today, I honor Mr. Jones. May he rest in peace and power.🙏🏽♥️

Shaun

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A Culinary Revival

Good Morning!☀️

“A culinary revival” is how I described the week I had ten years ago in October 2014. However, it wasn’t just the week I met Marcus Samuelsson, Leah Chase, and John T. Edge (the food writer and former director of the Southern Foodways Alliance) but also the months leading up to it. A few months ealier, I had been invited to a culinary event in New Orleans with Chef John Folse. So, by this time, I felt as if the culinary side of my life had been awakened, and it was finally time to use my culinary degree. Yes, I was somewhat of a chef many moons ago (2002)—degree only, never worked in the field. Let’s just say you never know where life will take you. You plan for one thing—I was set on being a personal chef and traveling the world—and life goes in a completely different direction. While doing part of my culinary internship at a local hospital, I met a registered dietitian, and the rest is history!

Honestly, I’m not sure what’s next for me and this culinary thing. It always seems to be lurking in the background. I use it when doing food demos for nutrition education, but I would love to do much more with it. We shall see.

Well, that’s all I have for now. I just love a good trip down memory lane. Thanks for joining me. Wishing you a wonderful day.♥️

Love you,

Shaun

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Remembering Alton Sutton, Jr.

Today, I’m remembering my brother, Alton Sutton, Jr. He passed away on this day five years ago (October 19, 2019). There’s so much I want to say, but at the moment, I’m finding it hard to articulate my thoughts. When I tell you his presence in our family is so missed.

My brother was our gentle giant—kind, caring, loving, and very mild mannered. Definitely had a heart of gold. He was my dad and stepmom’s only son.

We were on this earth together for 46 years. Born almost three months apart (I was the oldest). Practically, twins… Yes, I miss him.

May he continue to rest in power and peace.🙏🏽🕊️♥️

Taken a year before his death.

We are my dad’s girls. This picture was taken at the hospital the night before my brother passed.🙏🏽
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The Good Times

Good Morning!☀️

They say time heals all wounds. Well, good memories soothes the soul.

Shared on October 11, 2022 with the caption, “Remember the good times; they will keep you afloat during the bad.”

Time and great memories are key to getting through tough times. Be sure to hold those memories close.

Praying you have a wonderful day and a lovely weekend.♥️

Love you,

Shaun