For Purpose & Growth

Embrace where you are at this current moment. No, it’s not where you are meant to stay. It’s where you need to be for a specific purpose as well as for growth. Find out what you can glean from this experience.♥️ ~ Shaun

Stand still and take it all in.

There are so many things I’m still perplexed about after so many years. I’m finally learning that I do not have to have all of the answers right now. That it’s okay not knowing it all or seeing the full picture. My job right now is to make the best of where I am and be of service to others. I also understand that my current experiences are fuel for growth. Yes, I’m learning.

On another note:

I tweeted last night during the season finale of one of my favorite shows, Tyler Perry’s The Oval. It felt so good to tweet again. However, my experience wasn’t the same as before. Y’all, it was better! You see, I used to tweet to make sure the show trended. Not sure why I felt it was my responsibility to do that, but I did. Crazy, huh?! This time it was about chatting and enjoying conversations with fellow watchers.

Tonight, I have another season finale to watch, Tyler Perry’s Sistas. Now y’all know this one’s my favorite! No, I’m not going to tweet during this one. I have found my place and space for chatting in our We Are Sistas group. Don’t have to worry about trends, numbers, etc. It’s my happy space on Sistas Wednesdays. By the way, that guy Aaron – the accountant/preacher – has a few skeletons in his closet, and I love it! He was just a tad bit too clean… too nice… too perfect. With that being said, I do believe people can change, and maybe he has; but, you can’t tell me he’s been squeaky clean his entire life. There had to be some drama at some point in his life. Ain’t nobody that perfect!

Anyhoo… Let me get my day started. Wishing you a wonderful Wednesday and a fabulous rest of the week.


I’m Already Living In My Dreams

Much too often we limit ourselves to what is familiar… to what we know and see.

When I was in my twenties, God gave me a taste of what I said wanted but I was too naive to recognize it. For decades, I saw myself in international spaces. Wrote in my Senior book (high school journal) that I wanted to work for an international company. God gave me the Air Force. Said I wanted to travel to different countries. I lived in Germany and Turkey. Shoot, even said I wanted to live in the city I’m living in now, eight years before I actually moved here; and the move was not intentional, it just happened.

So, here I am actually living in all I have spoken… in all I have dreamed. No, nothing is or has happened the way I envisioned, but everything has happened and is happening.

For years, I have seen myself standing in front of the Palais des Nations in Geneva, Switzerland admiring the flags of different countries. I have seen myself walking its halls and interacting with people from all nations. Well… I am already doing it through my blogs and social media platforms. No, I am not physically at the U.N.; however, everything I saw myself doing, I’m doing from the comfort of my home. Now, this does not mean I don’t want to go to Geneva, Switzerland because that’s still a dream of mine. What it does mean is I now recognize the gift I have been given and I am eternally grateful that I am living in my dreams.

I am truly blessed.

I would like to thank all of you for reading my blogs and helping me fulfill my dreams. I so appreciate you!♥️

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Hello Sunday

Breaking generational cycles of dysfunction.

Yesterday I shared the quote, “Humbleness is where ego ends and God begins … Humbleness looks good on you.” I actually shared it a year ago and decided to reshare it yesterday. Little did I know that I would need to take my own advice so soon. Ha! I had no idea I would have to put my ego aside and apologize for unintentionally hurting someone’s feelings.

Everything happened so fast. Words were said out of emotions that seemed to pop up out of nowhere. It was me responding emotionally to something this person – okay, it was my daughter – does all the time, which should not have surprised me. However, it did. Y’all, I am not even sure what triggered me, but the way I responded made her feel like she was being attacked. Honestly, I did not believe I was in the wrong. I felt the way I responded was appropriate and justifiable. However, in the end, we both felt hurt.

After taking a step back and replaying the entire interaction, I actually heard what she was saying. I apologized even though I could not fully understand why she was offended. She then apologized too.

I have this wall hanging that reads, “In this house… we never give up, we say I’m sorry, we like to have fun, we give hugs, we are family.” This basically sums up the tone of our household. It is a tone I intentionally set after my divorce; and it is up to me to make sure it stays this way, even when I’m not feeling it.

Y’all, I did not grow up in a household where apologies were made or anyone’s point of view was taken into consideration. If you felt hurt, that was on you. It has taken me years to break this way of thinking. If I want this world to be a better place, it has to first begin at home.

Again, humbleness is where ego ends and God begins.

Have a blessed week!