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Life

Wednesday Writings

Shaun Bradford

Happy Wednesday! Today, I am celebrating wins. Not the big wins that everyone sees, but the small, teeny-tiny mental wins. You know, the ones that are small but have the greatest impact on our psyche. Yes, those are the wins I am referring to. And if you didn’t know, they are also the wins we need to move forward in this game called Life. Because y’all, life is definitely a game. Listen, if we are not careful, we will find ourselves stuck, repeating the same level for years. It’s a game.

So, even though my wins are small, I am celebrating them like I hit the jackpot because baby, I just entered another level. Yes, I have entered another level of life, which means another level of challenges.

HOWEVER…

This time I am entering prepared because I KNOW it’s a game.

AND…

I finally realize it’s a game that I cannot win without God’s presence, guidance or grace. Yes, the reason I was stuck on the same level for so long was because I tried to win on my own. HA! Silly me! Well, God is leading and I am listening. Okay.. so I would be lying if I said moving forward I will always listen —because some of the things He instructs me to do I just don’t want to do (yes, I can be stubborn – Repeat level–Lol!) —however, it’s my goal to do so. Looking forward to more wins and less repeats.

Yes, God is good and He loves me.♥️ Celebrating

Be Blessed

Shaun

Life

December 12th

Shaun Bradford

After doing a Christmas light tour in New Orleans City Park – which had me feeling like Princess Tiana – and watching Volume One of Harry and Meghan on Netflix this weekend; then, reading last year’s blog, I’m feeling all warm and fuzzy. Y’all, I’m actually ready to try this love thing again. I’m ready to have my dreams come to fruition.

Most of my childhood I heard I needed to get my head out of the clouds. That what I wanted wasn’t possible, wasn’t real (still hear the same thing today). I was 18 years old when my belief took its first hit. Yes, at 18 I still believed I could have whatever I dreamed. NO ONE could convince me otherwise. Then, with every hit afterwards – disappointment in myself, heartbreak, mistake – the less I believed.

Y’all, I needed to see this blog today. I needed to be reminded that my dreams do matter. Yesterday, Pastor Michael Phillips said whatever we had given up on was still possible. And I believe him. All of my dreams are still possible!

The statement that I refer to from December 12, 2014 (blog below) makes me smile. No one was going to rescue Shaun but Shaun. Looking back, I needed to go through the entire experience alone. Believe me, I didn’t want to, but I had to. It was the only way I could find my way back to me, which is who I began searching for eight years ago (story for another time). This time I know what I want and I know that I don’t have to settle – not just with love but with all aspects of my life. Smiling

December 12, 2021– Written after reading Will Smith’s memoir, WILL.

There is no way I can go into another relationship broken. I must realize there is no knight in shining armor to rescue me from myself.

JOURNAL ENTRY, DECEMBER 12, 2014

Hello Sunday December 12, 2021

Last year’s blog is sooo worth the read: Hello Sunday December 12, 2021.

Enjoy!

Life

The Beginning of a Journey

Shaun Bradford

Happy 5th Blogging Anniversary to Me!

Until I read my journal entry from 2017, I had no idea I began blogging in December of that year. My first blog, the one I’m sharing below, was written on December 4, 2017. My “official” first blog was written on December 6, 2017. Boy were my goals and aspirations different. Things changed. Life changed. I really was a different person– a totally different person. As always, God’s timing is impeccable. I needed to re-read these today. So grateful He loves me.

Word of advice– Be careful not to let life or people break you. Set boundaries. Only give from your overflow. Know when to cut ties. And lastly, protect your peace!

Here’s the very first one!
December 4, 2017

I was born in the Mississippi Delta. I was born to a teenage mother. I was born an African American female. Some would say I was born a statistic. …

The Beginning of a Journey
Life

Midday Ramblings

Shaun Bradford

Hey!! Felt like writing. Sooo many thoughts and topics floating around in my head – relationships, loyalty, aging. It’s a lot.

Relationships — Watched today’s episode of Red Table Talk about relationships. It was definitely one I needed to watch. Received free advice from relationship coaches that I had no idea I needed. Smile. Sometimes I think about being in a relationship again. Yeah.. some days I really wish I had a boo. I’m not going to lie, I miss having a man around – not only for sex (lol) but because they’re pretty cool to hang with. But, the real question is, would I want him around ALL of the time? Because y’all, I really love my space. I love my me time. Whenever I express this to other people, I’m told I’m better off being alone. Like.. really?! Why can’t I have the kind of relationship I desire? I mean, my kids understand me and we get alone just fine. So are you telling me I can’t find a man who will understand and respect my wishes just the same?

Anyhoo.. after watching today’s episode, I believe it’s possible to find someone who compliments me; and, I will not have to date around to find him. As Sheree Zampino put it, the older you get the more you realize what you truly want and refuse to accept anything less (paraphrased). AND.. you don’t have to find them online or through some dating app. She met the guy she’s currently dating, at Home Depot. I believe that’s doable. Smiling

Loyalty — I am sooo tired of hearing about Coach Prime’s disloyalty. How?! How was he disloyal? I’ve already written my thoughts in yesterday’s blog. I’m just so ready for people on my social media timelines to stop acting like they are victims. Like he used them and left. And the majority of the people talking didn’t even go to Jackson State University. If they’re still talking tomorrow, they will be muted.

Aging — Received a call from one of my cousins about my one of my uncles not doing well. Y’all, when I say this year has been crazy! My dad, mom, stepmom, auntie and uncles. Everyone is aging and most of them have chronic illnesses. Seems like once one gets better another gets worse. Life

Well, I’m going to end now. Think I’ve released enough crazy energy into the universe. It’s probably too late to take a nap but I might anyway.

Y’all take care! And if you’ve read this, please don’t put much thought into what I’ve said. I just needed to ramble. Love y’all!

Shaun